FOR MEN ONLY –
On girls and love life
By Ernest
Wamboye
Does the fact
that age mates have more influence over most teenagers than parents strike you
as something odd? I mean, this parent has lived with the child for more than 15
years but they cannot influence the child as easily as the child’s age mate can
for five minutes. What is the root cause of influence?
I believe the
answer to be this; Reconciliation leads to relationship, which leads to
influence. You are more likely to be influenced by who you have a working
relationship with. If parents reconciled more with teenagers, they would
influence more.
The truth does
not apply with parents alone though. It does with male- female relationships
too. I’ve always found that it’s better to be in agreement than to be right in
a relationship with a woman. You are likely to win your lady to your view when
you relate with them than when you prove you’re right. You may feel that you
are on the right. In fact, maybe you are right and your partner is completely
wrong. They are on the wrong and they act like they are not. Many men at this
point go by the motto, the best defence is an offence. However, the best
defence is an offence is you want to win an argument. If you want to win a
relationship with a woman, the best defence is no offence. Women love to be
listened to. To be the bigger man is to be the greater one by being the humble
one. You may win arguments and show you’re right and never have the respect and
peace with your lady.
Relationships
work out when there’s a safe environment. As a man, take the role to create
that environment. Retaliating
anger with anger is adding fuel to the inferno. The next time they come in
shouting at you, control yourself and ask what the problem is with a smile. In
fact, give them a big hug and ask them gently, “Sweetheart, you sound troubled,
what’s the matter.” Tone of voice, facial expression and physical touch all
matter to a woman. So when you say “What’s wrong dear,” but you’re sounding
like the Hulk, she will keep going down that road. Women if shown affection will return the
love and respect in heaps and overloads. Treat her like a queen even when she’s
not acting like one. It’s okay. They will earn your respect and they will love
you for your humility. Many men may argue, “She should also do the same!” Let
me let you in on a little secret dear gentleman. If you lead she will follow.
Of course there
are women who are simply terrible and will not flinch at any effort that a man makes. They probably don’t deserve a gentleman like you. I assure you though,
99.99 percent of women do not fall in that category and a little affection on
the other 364 days apart from Feb 14th would result in a beautiful
encounter with these beautiful gifts from GOD. You can quote me. This year, show love through
humility. Turn down the vocals and tune in the love. Remember, reconciliation
leads to relationship, which leads to influence.