, as a man
living in the 21st Century, pledge from now henceforth to be a man
who loves and treats his lady (girlfriend, fiancée, wife) as a valued co-heir of the
kingdom of Christ.
I will be her
friend at all times before being her boy-friend/fiancé/husband. I will invest my time, energy and resources for a relationship of mutual love between us. I will respect her and her family. I will forgive her when
she wrongs me. I will cultivate our friendship through mutual activities that
will make us friends.
I will pursue
her and I will demonstrate affection to her through hugs, and words of
affirmation. I will value her and tell her she is beautiful as often as I can.
I will not embarrass her, abuse her, look down on her or use my hands to strike
I will not go silent on her. I will communicate with her by talking
with her and not talking at her. I will not harbour anger, resentment or malice
against her. I will communicate with my words to express hurt and will use them
wisely not to discourage her. I will speak in love in times of pain and in
times of joy. I will not be cold, angry and indifferent towards her. I will
make time to hear her out and fan into flame the dreams she has in life.
I will give more
than receive based on the words of Christ himself “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” I will invest my time in her and make her a happy woman. I will invest my money and treasures in her,
the love of my life.
I will trust her
and trust her intuition. I will not impose my will but will lead whilst
I will lead by
example by being under the authority of Christ and submitting to Him. I will
take my walk with God seriously by committing to a church and devoting my
service in the gifting that I have. Through prayer, reading and studying of the
word, fellowship and sharing of the word with others, will I lead by example. I
will encourage and challenge her spiritually to grow toward being a good and
faithful servant of the Lord Jesus. I will encourage her to love the Lord more
than she loves me. I will invest in her spiritual life through prayer,
fellowship and buying any spiritual material that will enable her to grow.
I will respect
her body and treat it with absolute purity. I will not seduce her, caress her,
kiss her or touch her in any sexual way until the night of our marriage. Until
the minister says “You may now kiss the bride” I will not use my lips to lure
her into sin. I will make her sexual purity my priority by avoiding secluded
places that will lead us to fall into temptation. I will control my sexual
drive and wait for the marriage bed as a show of love through patience.
I will be
faithful to her at all times. I will cut strings that draw me to old flames of
girlfriends. I will ward off any other girls that may pose a threat to the
relationship or that may make her feel insecure. I will affirm her and let her
know she’s the only one for me. I will walk with integrity and self-control to
have my eyes for her alone. I will resist the urge to lust after other women
that I see in my school, workplace or everyday life. I will do away completely
with any form of medium that draws my eyes to other women lustfully i.e.
certain television programmes, magazines, Internet sites, clubs, etc.
I will commit
myself to a group of godly men of God to be my keepers and
help me stay faithful to this resolution.
I will not take
this girl for a spin or test-drive her. I will lead this relationship to a
lasting, thriving, godly marriage.
Signed Ernest Wamboye Date 19th Feb 2011
Witnessed by God